Explain Sex to Children

It is hard to explain about sex to our children. What they considered to be small and still afraid imitate what we do. His course, curiosity of children encouraged to ask what all they see.

There are a few tips that can be used as reasons for the child sex menayakan subject. Essentially, we must still provide information so that children understand and be peaceful in them.
Following tips as quoted from untukku.com about how the child's curiosity about sex:

* How to explain sex to children?
Give honest answers and not timid. Provide information needed by children at that time. For example, children aged 3 years and want to know where babies come from. You do not need to explain in detail about reproduction. Simply said, the baby grows in a special place in his mother's body.

* What should you say when you see children being intimate touch?
Try to be calm, do not be excessive. Bring back the small room to sleep. Explain both of you are not a quarrel, because if it does not create misunderstandings will be notified on the poppet. Say you are playing and showing affection to one another.

* Age of the child should be given education about sexual abuse?
Do not be too straight to time. Children learn about sex all the time and the answers to individual questions. Avoid the plan to let the things about sexual abuse because they are not realistic.

* What to do if you find children playing doctor and show each other genital with friends?
Stay calm, and say to them that the "private parts" is the only own time, and they should not allow people touch the part.

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Parents in The Development of Children

Rearing of children is not easy. Many factors influenced, especially the role and how parents educate their children at home.

Being a parent, according to Tan Vina in a talk show held Sion Hill School, should know the advantages of the child if you want to increase its potency.

Parents first, and now different. If the first, the parents still have a lot of time for their children, technology is also still not as fast now, and the minimal influence of the mass media. Unlike the now, parents have time for their children because of limited work demands, technology has also been high, and the influence of the media so big.

Vina recommend the parents to put more attention to the mass media. He cite comics, reading this image that contains a lot of pornography and not suitable as a reading of children.

"So also with the internet. Parents do not need experts, they should at least know the internet. So that later can supervise their children in using the internet, "he said.

Not different from the television, now that many television cinema can be adapted directly by children. "We have to notify the child, where the right and wrong," he said.

However, there is also a television that brings a positive influence. Just call the game football broadcast that uses a lot of tactics and strategy. There, children can learn and apply them in life.

As parents, still according to Vina, must also continue to foster curiosity. Try to read to wide knowledge. When curiosity parents high, then the child will not be any different. Child's curiosity will grow by itself.

Then, keep and develop communication between family members. By doing so, it's easier to raise children. If there is something wrong, husband and wife must communicate with each other. Don't be silenced each other when there is a problem. Better ask directly, what the problems and search for way out.

Couple must also declare each other. Avoid mutual conceal something. For example, a husband to buy something without his wife. Buy it because with children, the husband is the son-not to say the same for his mother. "Do not Threatens to keep the child, 'says Vina.

Vision Parents
Raising a child can not finish the course after the children growing up. Children should be given formal and informal education in order to grow into a mature and personal responsibility.

Most children grow because of the influence of their parents. Children will imitate what the parents and customs. Therefore, in order to have children responsibly, parents also need to have a vision of life in the household. "Plan's vision to the front of the family. How what and how? "Said Vina.

Be communicated with children and give children the trust. Speak with the words and give positive motivation. When children speak, listen his words with the heart. Similarly, when children have problems, check with the current problems haunt the child. "That way, children will be fostered for the independent and have responsibility," said Vina.

There are a few tips that emotional intelligence presented Vina. Of which is, of the blame, it is better to encourage the children to give. Then, from the overlook, it is better to explain to the child what has been done.

From birth, the child is like a sheet of white paper is clean. Parents and the environment outside the home is the colors that will decorate the white paper. As much as possible, parents should maintain and educate children so that the color values, positive and help her in this life.

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Black Streak on Chinese Architecture

Chinese culture is a culture that never dropped out during the year 5000 compared to other cultural excellence in the world. From architecture to culinary, abandoned the ancestors of the nation until now.

However, in the middle culture fusion, the Chinese cultural seems being forgeting. When the noodles and bakpao still enjoy, as with other architectural properties. Though the full history, now many Chinese architectural heritage that is not maintained, even vanish earth swallowed.

Chandra Naya or first called Building Sin Ming Hui, for example. Now the building is located on Jalan Gajah Mada No. 188 is not like the original. Only the main building. That has been squeezed terraced building, squeezed by time and civilization of modern society.

Similarly, with the tomb Souw Beng Kong, where the last place captain is also the first Chinese real squeezed. Before restored, the existence of the graves, located in Taruna Gang, Prince Jayakarta Street squeezed this house look untidy and dirty. Even already about 80cm below the soil surface. As if the graves of mindless, but history says another.

So also with some Chinese heritage buildings that are located in Pasar Pagi, Mangga Dua, and Senen. There, many buildings being collapsed for the development of the toll road, shops, and shopping centers.

Destruction of Chinese architecture, especially in Jakarta, not apart from their own community (including those who are called "Chinese half-breed"). Try to think, what the shop owners, traders and owners of buildings in the area Glodok, Mangga Dua, Pasar Pagi and? Most of them are called with the Chinese hybrid people are descendants of Chinese in the past.

Because business opportunities and financial interests, they are not concerned with the historical factors. Moreover, the area has potential for a very large business in Jakarta. Glodok a course such as the rotation of money has billions of rupiah per day.

While Chinese people are very honored their ancestor. They have a tradition of molasses Beng others who do not teach each individual to honor ancestors and parents to visit their grave. The main idea, because we have them, therefore we must not forget their services.

Old buildings that look distinctly Chinese obsolete, but has historical value, many being collapsed. Replaced with new buildings, modern minimalist style that looks more in line with the interests of business. They compete in the scratch Rejeki place, which should be heritage.

Architecture properties Sumintardja Djauhari the Ark, a Chinese observer architecture, is a cultural form that is easily recognized and become the image and identity of a city or the environment. That is, the identity of the property into the surrounding community, even a city like Jakarta.

If more Chinese property in the area of Mangga Dua, Glodok, and New Market being collapsed, then lost the identity of the community. In fact, from the first until now, many Chinese people who inhabit the region.

Auto Amnesia
Not only people, but also the fact tesebut not apart from the influence of the government in power. Glodok, and Pasar Pagi Mangga Dua, not the new show yesterday afternoon. Remember, the new order, Chinese culture does not sebebas like this now. New government in the Gus Dur, Barongsai and Chinese New Year does not forbidden.

This means, in the new order, culture, heritage architecture including the Chinese, may have "cleaning". Can not be protected as opposed to the policy authorities. Anyone can not protect the heritage of their country if the government does not analogous.

Another case with right now. Chinese culture began kept as other Indonesian culture. A course such as Imlek or Cap Go Meh, this culture that even many being commercial. Various schools, community groups, and even shopping centers are routine celebration each year. So also with the Chinese language, many schools and institutions that provide courses specifically learn its language.

If the policy has changed, now factor into financial problems. Although many observers of the history and architecture pour their tought to find a way how to preserve the Chinese architecture, but the allocation of maintenance costs be calculated from the government is still minimal. While the buildings did not ask for a little maintenance fund.

Unfortunatelly, but it is reality. If the government does not support the first existence of Chinese culture, it is money that is a problem. The Government of Jakarta itself is still not whole-heartedly to protect ancient Chinese architecture, which is inherited from the Century 17 and 18 this. "Not that there is adequate protection," said Djauhari.

Among the many properties of historical Chinese architecture in Jakarta. If the people want, there are still some that can be saved in the Glodok. Everything depends on the community, which would be brought to the historical-cultural heritage? Protect it and let a Chinese expression of identity or community being banished and let us suffer amnesia car, forget oneself up our own history.

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The Other Way to Learn History

When the first school, history lessons may often spelled out as a boring subject. The students headed more than the teachers who are looking at explaining the existence of the kingdom of Sriwijaya in Indonesia, for example.

If only learned in the classroom or just read it in books, history is quite boring. We can only imagine, without know how to shape the reality of history. Like others, when we joined in the Community Care History and Culture of Indonesia or abbreviated KPSBI-HISTORIA concept that has a "rekreatif, educative and entertaining" in the paradigm of the community history and culture. With this concept, will create a pleasant atmosphere and the imprint in the hearts who follow them.

If it is usually a lot of hate and history is considered boring, crisp, ngebetein, sleepy and make mockery thousand others, then join in with this community, they will find a place in which to learn and love the history and culture and that without compulsion is. Conditions such as the awareness of history.

"What we do is how to make history to become interesting and fun. So in the end people easily get the knowledge of the subjects of a historical event, "said Chairman of the Community Care History and Culture of Indonesia (Community Historia), Asep Kambali.

Initially, the Community was established Historia concern because some students History Education Department University of Jakarta (UNJ) first-IKIP Jakarta history faculty and students, University of Indonesia (UI) on the condition of the people who are reluctant to learn the history and culture of the nation. Many of the people who do not care about the potential of historical and cultural assets.

Agreement on the establishment Community Care History and Culture of Indonesia or the Asep Kambali as the head of the output in the forum meeting in UNJ Rawamangun on 22 March 2003.

According to the PR Historia, Bondet, built a good relationship Community Historia with various parties, especially those related to education, tourism, history and museum, and eventually bring Asep Community Historia become the main partner manager various old buildings in Jakarta, such as the Jakarta History Museum, Museum Bank Mandiri, the Museum of Bank Indonesia, Jakarta Post Office Taman Fatahillah, Musuem Juang 45, Café Batavia, Xpose Cafe, Cafe dock, Bahari Museum, National Museum of Resurrection, and so forth.

Historia community has a vision to build awareness of the history and culture at the end of a unity in difference Nasionalisme or as a vision of the Community Historia will be achieved.

"This community is as a perturbation. History how boring? People also tend to leave the history, are reluctant to learn from the experience of history, "said Asep.
Asep also added that the Community Historia draws on three important issues in order to realize its mission of each program community. First, that the Community should be Historia-direct or recreational experience. Because of historical experience with the process will be easily digested and remembered.

Second, the community must educate Historia. This is because the history and culture that would contain many elements of knowledge and wisdom that should be instructive. So that they gain the ability kognisi and bring life afeksi so critical to the life of the nation and state.

Third, another element that must learn the history and culture that is applied Historia Community is to add the element of entertainment or entertainment in it. This will add a fun atmosphere and the thrill for everyone involved in the program Historia Community. Heritages such as the games and watch movies "DOELOE tempo" at the museum.

Historia Community Program
There are several programs that can Historia Community, followed by those who want to learn the history of how fun and recreation while.

1. Jakarta Trail
This program began in early 2005 until now. Activities JakartaTrail previously called Old Village Tour-Jakarta History Museum, which was held in 2002 - 2005.

Jakarta is the Trail of roads laid in the afternoon or evening to trace the history and cultural heritage located in the Old City of Jakarta and surrounding areas, or places considered to have historical and cultural heritage in Jakarta.

In this area there are many historic sites and a variety of old buildings from the Dutch colonial period. Through this activity, it is expected that the history and culture of Jakarta will terkuak and charm and history and potential as a cultural and tourism assets of the history can be realized.

The core of this is indeed want to, "this old heritage building loh past our nation that we should keep our guard and for the generations to come." Strategy touch with human interest and the emotional sense, this activity JakartaTrail become more weight rather than ordinary roads. Because after the tour is expected to be a growing awareness of the history koginsi and afeksi of historic buildings in the Old City of Jakarta.

2. The Old City Night Tour Jakarta
Other activities that are not less interesting is the Old City Night Tour Jakarta, the effort of building a heritage in the Old City of Jakarta on the night. This activity is basically like to experience different from that held on the Trail afternoon to evening. The atmosphere of the evening feels rather different day. Apart from relatively quiet night, old buildings, colonial legacy, if deemed night feel more exotic and interesting hobby for those who footograpi.

Night Tour Jakarta Old City not far different pelakasnaanya process. The only difference is done at night. The goal is the same, at least, the participants and the public aware that the Jakarta Kota Tua Jakarta, in the afternoon and night, are still fun and useful education and recreation.

3. Wisata Bahari: Historical Island Adventure
Wisata Bahari actual sea exploration program reveals the impression Colonial in Jakarta Bay. Because the Jakarta Bay is the entrance gate of the early explorers of the world to Sunda Kalapa. In addition to the historic island in the Thousand Islands region, kegatan this diharapakan can develop a love of antique and historical sites in the Thousand Islands.

Bahari Tour events this end with the fuel-roasted fish and have dinner together on the edge of the beach bonfire accompanied warm. The next day, invited participants around the island of Onrust views overnight. Many participants were amazed to see terkagum-berserakannya sites of historical and archaeological disorganized and not terawat.

In addition to the activities, the Community Historia also have other activities of interest. As, discussions, surgical books, seminars and talkshows, staunch social, Historia Members Gathering, and Community Communication Network Historia.

In the last few years, members of the Community Historia growing. The number of members per June 2008 amounted to nearly 2,700 members-an. Increase in members on the one hand can be advantages, but on the other hand can also be a threat to the community Historia itself. Members who can be a lot of benefits if the management is handled properly. Similarly, vice versa, if not handled by then will be a serious threat.

"With the membership system that is not binding, this community truly vessel for the lover of history and culture. Thus, the members can come and go. Those who love history, will be faithful and persevere. If it was not love, can also still join, just add a friend ..., "Asep close.

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Politics (Not) Exact Science

Not how long, Election 2009 will start. Some 44 political parties took part in the "democratic parties" this time. Then there are about 560 seats of the House of Representatives members divided in 77 regional elections will diperebutkan candidates legislative members.

Later, in the face, and both political parties (Parpol) and members of legislative candidates (Caleg), both "three-quarter money race race conquer the people. If there are parties who have a large fund, they will be diligent to advertise themselves in various mass media. So also with Caleg, they are not ashamed anymore photos dipampang in the streets. The aim is that people know and want to select them.

During the campaign, they will be diligent in visiting various places, especially in the pockets they vote. Not a secret anymore that in the visit, they will menebar vision, mission, giving the party a little, and do not forget to give political promises.

From the people who live in the city center until they are living in the tip of the island they will go. They are not concerned with kumuhnya Muara Baru area by the flooding that often rob, for example, or the sun and heat exhaustion sengatan that they felt. They pursue sound engine.

However, when Parpol get the sound and Caleg are selected, they still compete akankan visit pemilihnya community? Masihkan their sweat and bersimbah willing to come to the alley-alley slums just say thank you because they have chosen? They only pursue sound engine.

There is a study that says that no one from the bottom of the board members visited the center or after the selected area (kompas.com). Although the research conducted Kalyanamitra is devoted to women politicians, but not much different from the male politicians.

This phenomenon is already a secret and there is no improvement from year to year. Isn'T to visit their constituents, wong II during the hearing on 24 November - 19 December 2008 only ago, board members always attend the plenary meeting only 116 people from 550 members of the council (Kompas, 10 / 1).

Attend the plenary meeting that has become its obligations and as representatives of the people alone, they are often absent, especially must come down. But he said, their absence is to visit constituents in these areas. Lho, not an opportunity that can be obtained when the recess?

Beans and skin
Perhaps we still remember the slogan "forget the bean skins" are often defined with the people forget the other people who render a success against him. Beans will be forgotten after the skin and seeds of peanut dituai have economic value. Nutshell dicampakkan and will be discarded as such. But because the skin, can grow peanuts, protected sun and rain.
Not good when the slogan was continuously adhere to the board members. Community diibaratkan with the "skin" dikecewakan often by the "nuts" mean that the board members.

Even worse when added with the metaphor "a catch". Like when the elections such as now, many party and Caleg the mengubar promise because there is a political free. Legislative members to be elected.

Being a member of the legislative notabene is representative of the people, not easy work. In the study of Islam, a Amirul Believers, Umar Ibn Abdul Aziz, even crying when receiving the position to become a leader in the Arab land. He is considered as a test and remember the poor people, mothers are widows, who have many children, a little sustenance, and people in the prisoner. Umar Ibn Abdul Aziz know that soon he will be asked pertanggungjawabannya.

Visit the constituent assembly with the aim to know how the conditions and any problems in society, is also one of responsibility of members to the legislative pemilihnya. That way, people do not feel neglected, feel even get media direct aspiration, not only to see members of the legislative meeting to create rules.

No one when every member of the legislative body, first, have a fixed agenda to diffuse to the community. Set the time to visit each village community in the area pemilihannya. There, together with the community, can solve problems with more concrete.

Second, in the visit, plans to create a realistic development of the region and in the community. Not only berkutat on matters theoretical. Moreover, plans that will hit later in the bureaucratic problems that are not effective.

Third, although already allocated, the members of the legislative body want to help directly in the area when pemilihannya, natural disaster, many of the poor, disease plague-stricken, many children who are not able to attend school, for example. By doing so, members of the legislative body will not be considered to forget konstituennya.

However, as the Otto von Bismarck (1815-1898), "Politics is not an exact science" (Politics is not mathematics). That is, what happens now, what is promised, what was planned, could be changed due to political science is not definitive. Berharaplah politicians that we will be changed to the better, do not forget the people, not sell out and trust, not undermine the state money, and not berkolusi evil.

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Flood and It’s people

Mid-January, two RW in Penjaringan, North Jakarta have started flooding submerged due to rain. Similarly, in Rawa Buaya, Cengkareng. Gust Times Mookevart force residents evacuate because her house was flooded up to 1 metre.

Start of this month until March 2009, the Meteorological and Geophysics climatology (BMKG), tell intensity of rainfall will be quite high and can cause some areas in Jakarta will stagnate.

Although Jakarta has been doing Pemprov preventive measures such as dredging several times, cleaning up garbage in some estuary, make Satkorlak (Unit Executive Coordinator) to village level, but there is no telling anticipation in the face of disaster is annual.

Jakarta (Cengkareng, Kalideres, and Kebonjeruk) and Jakarta (Koja, Kelapa Gading, Pademangan, Penjaringan, and Tanjungpriok) is a regional flood. Each year, the region is certainly stagnant flood. Until-up, the people there to become familiar with what caused the flood.

Talk about the flood, I remember the house with a friend in Duri Kosambi, West Jakarta. Each season, he always was, was the flood. Each time water is MHT swamp road in front of her house, she immediately bribe home furniture, electronic goods, securities, and enough food.

All that he move to the top floor of the house made sober. Not permanent, such as in the complex-housing complex, which can be important for sleep and not exposed to rain.

When the rain never stopping, along with his wife, he is not lelap asleep. Bersiaga if there is a flood shipment usually comes unexpectedly. Oil lamps and candles were prepared not forget, it's also a guard, if the power off.

My friend that, already inhabit the area from an 90-year. He and the surrounding community, already familiar with the flood diligently to come to the area. Although there is little fear, as it deems flood usual. Until he said, "Jakarta is not the name, if it is flooding!"

To heard that, I think so, why Jakarta is very sticky with a flood? Start at the coloring Jakarta floods each year? And why the provincial government can not anticipate and prevent flooding?

Perhaps it is a normal question. But it's always a question, I believe, not even one person who can answer it with concrete and realistic solutions. Why? Because flooding is not only a problem that people carelessly dispose of garbage in the Times Mookevart, no longer just a problem of building a property developer in the region serapan water, or not becusnya not only the government in managing the administration of the city.

Floods have become a complex problem that requires not only answers, but also committed a clear, decisive, and sustainable from the various parties. Both from the government, society, and private parties and business.

Quick Reaction Society
Of the blame on each other and who demand the most responsible, there are good people to do what the friend I mentioned above. Preparing to minimize the flood damage.

Start collecting securities, thinking which will be placed in electronic goods when the floods came, set up emergency lighting equipment (candles, oil lamps, petromaks, generator), or separate the clothing and food pickup if the flood forced us to evacuate.

Then they make the region free of flooding, may suggest that, can begin to plan the establishment of posko-posko assistance. Posko can be established in homes with children to empower local youth. They can gather support from residents or business located in their territory.

If flooding is widespread, public kitchen become the most needed assistance. Because the area is usually affected by flooding, have no land to build public kitchen. Society needs more practical things that when the flood. Make a side dish with rice wrapped pauk that can be distributed to the post-evacuation or post directly to the flood affected areas.

In the flood disaster, especially for those who live in areas prone to flooding, the community must be pro-active in anticipating flood.

As well as quick reaction from the community (which is not affected by the flood). Coordination at the residents in the neighborhood will not help very difficult. So that the assistance in various forms can be collected and distributed quickly. Another case with the government have often contribute assistance.

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Seeing Talent Through Fingerprint

Talent, or someone in excess of a field is not easily found. Talent is not only obtained from the inheritance lineage. And talent to make teraktualisasi, interventions need to have the capacity or grinding up talent earlier. But, if not yet know what the hidden talents in our children, how to sharpen the ability to become bakatnya special?

In order to know the talents of children, parents need to menstimuli and mengetesnya. Among other modalitas to maximize all the children, for example, of hearing, vision, pencecapan, palpability, and so forth, since the children aged 6 months.

Even so, the potential talent excavate children, can be done in many ways. Which is commonly done with parents include their children in a variety of courses at once. This action is not false, but, to be more effective and does not remove the time and cost, are now available tests that have been teruji keakuratannya. Thus, the potential for children can be directly and parents can be as early as possible to give the right direction.

Along with the development of science, found a new way to learn about potential since early childhood, with the fingerprint test or fingerprint tests. Fingerprint test is a method that is based on the science dermathoglypic, the science of learning in the outline sketch-skin. Which has been conducted scientific research on this fingerprint. Among other things done by Govard Bidloo since 1685 up to Marcelo Malpigh Kritine Bonnevie (1923). In the process, the formation of fingerprints already started when the fetus was 13 weeks, together with the formation of the brain, and perfect on sunday to-21. Fingerprints is determined by human DNA, which is closely related with the development of the nervous system. "Test fingerprints through the process of research has been a very long," said Sebastiana Linawati of Polaris Foundation (Children Education & Counseling).

According Linawati, who found in the area kediamannya Alam Sutera, fingerprint test this can be done since children under the age of 1tahun. However, for ease of data, should be done at the age of at least 2 years old, is also very useful for professionals (adult).

The process of taking fingerprints is very simple, in the tenth digit-scan, with a scan tool such as a mouse connected to the computer data storage. Patterns of fingerprints and palm can be measured based on TNGT (total nerve growth factor) began the number of flow, patterns, and the sharpness of the point of the triangle pattern palm (ATD). For the data needed this time around 10-20 minutes. After the data is taken, analysts will be processing about 5 minutes.

Next, the team psychologist will explain the results to the parents of the children. "During the consultation can be extracted this is a problem between the talent, there are obstacles, the influence of stimulation pattern and foster the environment. Where this is all related to each other in the development potential of children, "said Linawati explains.

Test results and the accuracy
Fingerprint test the accuracy of value can be said 90%, because they are not influenced emotional condition and does not require knowledge of the brain. "And because the nature of the immortal fingerprints, test is valid for life, 1-time investment for life is quite expensive," said Lina said with a smile cost Fingerprint tests have ranged between Rp1, 2 million to Rp1, 5 million.

From the results of the tests can be discovered, among others: the potential of individuals, the capacity left and right brain, basik characters, children's learning style and professional advice based on the development of Multiple Intelligences that are not foreign to us again. "Even with the latest means of finger print that we could have known 10 kecercasan Multiple Intelligences which is now developing" said Lina, where in the near future the Foundation joined with the Polaris SMART Solution will conduct seminars and Fingerprint test in the area of Serpong.

"Whatever the results of the tests, parents should keep children stimulated 3-4 the highest intellect and ingenuity do not worry too low, because the potential is most easily developed, with development potential, the other intelligences will also be developed. Moreover, parents also may not force the will, "Lina tukas closing speech.

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